But IM splits? Had to happen to me to believe!
Making pizza. Via GChat. He 9/11-ed me.
They met and fell in love over a weekend. He asked that I cross my fingers for them. Before severing all ties.
A year later, learning my lessons, my recovery lingers.
Compiled below are my 007 dating dont's.
1. Don't ignore red flags
Nobody's perfect. But we all have deal breakers.
If you spot and overlook the following red flags, red will be your tears' color.
- Chip on His shoulder If the guy is brooding, argumentative or resentful, flee. Walking on eggshells or using humor won't improve his mood. He needs a therapist; you're not one.
- Alcoholism Alcohol unveils hidden desires. But it blurs reality. So, don't believe love declarations by a guy with a bloated liver!
- Suicide If he often mentions wanting to end his life, your love can't dissuade him. You dream of a future he wants to abort. It's heartbreaking. But you need a romantic kindred spirit.
Now, don't cross him out just because he picked his nose. *wink*
2. Don't go all TLI (Too Little Info)
Do you live in a third-world country and are getting to know a foreigner?
Explain Internet cuts can last days. Or he'll think irregular contact avoidance.
If you gradually gain access to more sites, abstain from logging onto the site where you met. If he sees you visited, he'll accuse you of cruising.
3. Don't build castles alone
Both birds must want to build a love nest.
If one bird dreams up plans alone, the other will feel neglected.
By the time that bird had mentally schemed the love itinerary, the other will have flown away. So, keep the other in-the-know before it's too late.
4. Your blog is a secret garden
A personal blog is the psyche's vomit.
Its content can be sarcastic, impulsive or offensive. Inviting a suitor to become a reader limits your freedom of expression and you may unintentionally hurt him. Especially if he thinks the world's out to get him.
If he finds it on his own, it'll be a sure-fire test of his character.
5. Be solid friends first
Friendship is a healthy point to start from and regress to.
A relationship with no prior friendship is like cordless bungee jumping.
If romantic compatibility lacks, you may lose both friend and boyfriend.
6. Beware Type Casting
If he exclusively likes hairy and stocky guys, don't get cancer!
Chemotherapy emaciates and causes hair loss. He wouldn't like it.
Falling for the same type reduces to ashes any unique trait you, God forbid, might possess. Earth counts seven billion dwellers. Variety's good.
Making mistakes in love is not the end of the world. So, learn to learn from the opportunities at trial and error that life throws your way.
Without trial and error, all your knowledge about love will be passive. And passive learning has been proven to be beneficial only in the short run.
Learn to fish or wait to be fed fish?
The guy you dumped will get over you by dumping another. You'll get over the guy who dumped you by dumping another. And so on.
It's the learning from each guy that matters.
And one day, you'll meet prince charming. And both of you will have learned from your mistakes. And both will remember not to repeat them.
Just remember to invite me to the wedding, OK?