tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post339017526584346178..comments2023-03-26T09:02:31.583+01:00Comments on Gay Arab Guy: Sexually Abused as a Child ... and I Liked ItWilmaryadhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05521844359441132973noreply@blogger.comBlogger97125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-14413203416517030042012-01-16T14:55:35.174+01:002012-01-16T14:55:35.174+01:00I found this doing some research because I thought...I found this doing some research because I thought I was the only who actually had "enjoyed or kinda like" sexual abuse.. I didn't know it was sexual abuse until some years ago that I began with a lot of psychological problems which have as a potential cause sexual abuse. So I started thinking about and remembered what happened to me. In my case it was the same as Stephanie's... the "horsey". The son of a man that worked in my place used to tell me to take off my pants/dress or whatever I was wearing and he would touched me. I guess I'm kinda disturbed but I found pleasure in it. Then would go and look for him so he would touch me again. Other times he would tell me to close my eyes and he would sit me on his lap and do the horsey game. I remembered seing his underwear but I was so naive to even think that he was fucking me!! I AM SO ANGRY ABOUT IT AND I CAN'T DO ANYTHING!!! I feel frustated, someone help me.anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-56620014484712455742011-06-29T00:11:26.467+01:002011-06-29T00:11:26.467+01:00Thank you!
I will do this and will defiantly let ...Thank you!<br /><br />I will do this and will defiantly let you know later on. Thank you. Sianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-91656359329553608742011-06-29T00:10:01.777+01:002011-06-29T00:10:01.777+01:00Sia. Try to speak anonymously to a counselor. A ...Sia. Try to speak anonymously to a counselor. A counselor is more apt to give you an effective way to repair any damage you may have caused. This happens to the best among us, so don't beat yourself up. Granted, you faulted, but who doesn't when submerged by hormones? Your mistake is 50% alleviated because you were brave enough to express regret. The remaining 50% of the solution lies in the hands of a psychotherapist specialized in molestation/incest scenarios. I am sure there could be a toll-free number to call without divulging your identity. Please consider this and keep me posted.<br /><br />Thank you for your honesty.Wilmaryadhttp://gayarabguy.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-7174302667900577392011-06-29T00:04:41.745+01:002011-06-29T00:04:41.745+01:00Thank you so much for the advice and it is so good...Thank you so much for the advice and it is so good to talk to someone about this,<br /><br /><br />telling the parents is simply not an option. But I am going to have to live with it for the rest of my life, and live in constant fear of him telling. Sianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-58982905503983069932011-06-29T00:02:11.646+01:002011-06-29T00:02:11.646+01:00You have two choices: tell the parents or let the...You have two choices: tell the parents or let the secret fester.<br />If you prefer to keep the secret, be prepared to:See your step brother become precociously promiscuous.Make you take all the blame for it.<br />Be blackmailed into having sex or he'll out you. <br />Have an explanation once he tells the parents.<br />Live with torment if nobody hears about it.<br /><br /><br />If you choose to tell the parents, make sure you:<br /><br />Confess your own child molestation to the parents.<br />Accept that recidivism (doing what we endured to others) happens.<br />Seek help from a counselor (anonymity is possible). Accept your brother's later anger with you.Promise to redeem yourself by never doing it again.Ask for forgiveness from your brother (one-on-one when he's old enough to genuinely give you forgiveness or deny it to you).Wilmaryadhttp://gayarabguy.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-54100845156362304592011-06-28T23:50:54.493+01:002011-06-28T23:50:54.493+01:00Yes i supose your right, theres nothing I can do n...Yes i supose your right, theres nothing I can do now but explain to him none of it was his fault and that he is normal. <br /><br /><br />No we arn't related.<br /><br />Its not like im attracted to kids, its just that with him i knew i could get sexual favours, I think i used him to explore my own sexuality which is sick.Sianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-85236250787788937182011-06-28T23:48:08.721+01:002011-06-28T23:48:08.721+01:00Sia, the fact that you feel and express remorse is...Sia, the fact that you feel and express remorse is a good start. <br /><br />The penis touching, he may never hold against you. But oral and anal will be tattooed on his brain forever. Kids have a good memory.<br /><br />So, you and he don't share the same biological parents, right?Wilmaryadhttp://gayarabguy.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-82674700911768489162011-06-28T23:42:58.054+01:002011-06-28T23:42:58.054+01:00I'm 17 now, stopped it when i was 16I'm 17 now, stopped it when i was 16Sianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-64987382309421382582011-06-28T23:41:13.358+01:002011-06-28T23:41:13.358+01:00How old are you if you don't mind me asking?How old are you if you don't mind me asking?Wilmaryadhttp://gayarabguy.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-14754128281080420492011-06-28T23:36:30.200+01:002011-06-28T23:36:30.200+01:00Yes he is a very happy child in all aspectsYes he is a very happy child in all aspectsSianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-20193961379394275252011-06-28T23:33:34.336+01:002011-06-28T23:33:34.336+01:00I understand if there is no posotive response to t...I understand if there is no posotive response to this. I need negative response i need somebody to tell me what ive done was wrong.Sianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-16592695309708281422011-06-28T23:32:55.349+01:002011-06-28T23:32:55.349+01:00Sia, I don't think what you did to your step b...Sia, I don't think what you did to your step brother stems from what you had endured in childhood. I believe it's more lack of self-restraint.<br /><br />Think about it. When it happened to you, those kids were approximately your age. But your step bro is WAY younger than you are. Many will disagree with me, but if he were not born gay, you've laid ground for him to become so (if no become bi).<br /><br />How is he generally? A happy kid? All smiles but with sad eyes?Wilmaryadhttp://gayarabguy.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-85062911512370952602011-06-28T23:20:17.310+01:002011-06-28T23:20:17.310+01:00Yes :/Yes :/Sianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-37089856573880892912011-06-28T23:19:08.933+01:002011-06-28T23:19:08.933+01:00You mean he is 9 now?You mean he is 9 now?Wilmaryadhttp://gayarabguy.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-24572404236747842272011-06-28T23:17:49.435+01:002011-06-28T23:17:49.435+01:00I'm sorry I didn't realise his age was amb...I'm sorry I didn't realise his age was ambiguous.<br /><br />He is only 9, which makes this a whole lot worse.Sianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-12155113570115888722011-06-28T23:16:09.469+01:002011-06-28T23:16:09.469+01:00Sia, talk it out is what I wish my own brothers ac...Sia, talk it out is what I wish my own brothers accepted to do so that I move on completely. I am still stuck in my childhood trying to repair it.<br /><br />Has your step brother turned gay, too?Wilmaryadhttp://gayarabguy.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-35082392376237176262011-06-28T23:10:27.215+01:002011-06-28T23:10:27.215+01:00Thank you for replying.
Although it may be akwar...Thank you for replying.<br /><br /><br />Although it may be akward but I will talk to my stepbrother further about it and make completely clear that I shoudlnt of done what i did and that im sorry, I can only hope that he is okay later in life. Sianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-13698239046433392472011-06-28T23:03:33.985+01:002011-06-28T23:03:33.985+01:00Thank you for trusting us with your secret, Sia.
...Thank you for trusting us with your secret, Sia.<br /><br />Rest assured that you're neither sick or a pedophile. What you did is, indeed, the result of what you had done to you as a child. Children are thrill-seekers and anything that triggers feel-good emotions, they will ask more of (candy, toons, and even touch, to cite a few examples). Plus, when sex play occurs between people of the same age (or with little age difference), it's not molestation; it is exploration of the self and the other.<br /><br />I noticed that the nature of touch a child is exposed to influences his adult sexual behavior. If he had been raped or force had been used against him during his first (few) sexual act(s), he's likely to want that same pattern later. And vice versa. Your insistence that what you did to your step brother included no aggressiveness proves that lack of it in your early introduction to sex rubbed off onto your later sex life.<br /><br />Now, the situation with the step brother is a bit awkward. I, personally, find it weird to talk to my half brothers now, when we had fooled around with eachother as kids. What kills me is how homophobic they are (overtly expressing it ever since they've heard of my penchant for guys); yet, they forget that they are maligning the one whom they used to seek sexual favors from as children. The unease is unavoidable when you try to talk to them now as if nothing happened back then. And they play along masterfully.<br /><br />So, for your step brother to keep asking for it is only natural. You're the safest person he wants his adolescent intimacy from. You may have been his first experience ever, and it must have felt so good that he longs for its memory. Maybe the best thing to do is clearly talk it out and draw a line to avoid uncomfortable situations or angry accusations. Prevention will always be better than cure.<br /><br />Thank you again for confiding in us. I relate to and understand you.Wilmaryadhttp://gayarabguy.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-41878848001356755432011-06-28T22:30:38.724+01:002011-06-28T22:30:38.724+01:00Please don't judge me.
I was 'molested w...Please don't judge me.<br /><br /><br />I was 'molested when i was about 8/9 year old by 12/13 year olds who lived on my street. We would 'play' in a pop up tent in the back garden. They used to touch my penis while masturbating (It didn't go further than that) and i loved it. I asked for more until they both stopped for some reason. When I was about 14/15 I was sleeping in the same room as my step brother and i honestly don't know how but innocent playing escalated into me manipulating him to touch my penis. Things have escalated since then and i have made him touch me until I orgasm on multiple occasions, i have made him perform oral a few times, and i very briefly penetrated him (for about 5 seconds but i stopped because i knew that was COMPLETELY wrong)<br /><br />It makes me sick to think that i get pleasure from these things and i am so sorry that i have done them to him. I have stopped it now and apologised to him but I am worried that he will tell someone and my life will be ruined. God knows i deserve it. I was never aggressive with him, and I never made him do something he didn't seem to enjoy (I think he really enjoys it because he keeps trying to touch my penis even though ive told him to stop). I don't know weather i have caused irreparable damage to him and i am sure that i will not do anything like that to him, or anyone else, ever again. But whats done is done and i feel ashamed. I'm woundering if it all stemmed from what happened when i was younger and if anyone has ever been in my position. <br /><br />Am i a paedophile? I don't think I am because I don't get aroused or fantasise about children, I constantly fantasise about men. My sexual experience with this boy (apart from the molestation) was my first at the time and I think it was the fact that SOMEONE else was touching my penis that got me exited. Not because it was a child.e. This is the first time I've told anyone and i am asking people to try and understand me and reply. I know i'm sick but please i need help.Sianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-71644301002394818622011-05-24T00:01:18.650+01:002011-05-24T00:01:18.650+01:00I am sorry to hear that. Was your mother affectio...I am sorry to hear that. Was your mother affectionate when you were 2-7 years old? Wilmaryadhttp://gayarabguy.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-10993243105430797712011-05-08T06:24:36.373+01:002011-05-08T06:24:36.373+01:00I know how you feel! I was "raped" as a ...I know how you feel! I was "raped" as a child from 2-7, by someone over 18. I loved it! I kept asking for more, and more, and more! I wasn't in an unloving environment though...Anyway, when my mother found out... we moved quite a ways away. And to this day, I fantasize about it. BTW, I'm still under 18.Prettypopsiclenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-43074574401239444292011-03-28T18:03:15.211+01:002011-03-28T18:03:15.211+01:00Sorry to hear what you cousin did. Was he your age...Sorry to hear what you cousin did. Was he your age? And did you, actually, tell your parents?Wilmaryadhttp://gayarabguy.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-72223564362873281222011-03-25T18:34:48.627+01:002011-03-25T18:34:48.627+01:00oh my god..that was ..the most ..i cant explain th...oh my god..that was ..the most ..i cant explain things straight..i was used to be in that position. my cousin did something to me..it was disgustful..i'm sure as well that mom and dad would claim that i never told them about it too..ARABIC GAYShttp://twitter.com/arabicgays_netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-10598735485564972572011-01-30T22:52:53.699+01:002011-01-30T22:52:53.699+01:00I am so sorry to hear that. Did intercourse, actu...I am so sorry to hear that. Did intercourse, actually, happen?Wilmaryadhttp://gayarabguy.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3106215863106004643.post-52861167105563600532010-07-13T00:11:29.654+01:002010-07-13T00:11:29.654+01:00@ Stefanie: A child needs to be touched, caressed ...@ Stefanie: A child needs to be touched, caressed and rocked regardless of the intention of the agent of the action. So, even this veers towards sexual touching, and occurs without violence, the child will still enjoy it. I, for one, have always been extra sensitive to the touch, so being touched felt nauseatingly good. I just wish my mom were the source of that affection. You're not alone, Stefanie!Wilmaryadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05521844359441132973noreply@blogger.com